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Here's what I'm REALLY thankful about!
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If you're reading this on Thanksgiving, the odds are that you're either a fan of my blogs - something that I'd be very thankful for! - or you've arrived here trying to find something, anything to distract you from what's going on in your life right now, namely Thanksgiving. You may be stuck in a place you'd rather not be, either alone or with people who are doing their best to drive you crazy. I wouldn't insult your intelligence by saying "This too shall pass" or "You're not alone" because if you are alone, that would sound even more trite and stupid than usual. As our friend Marianne Williams said to us once, "Pain is pain."
Knowing why you're suffering usually doesn't have much influence on whether or not your suffering ceases. Becoming aware of the causes of problems doesn't always solve them. Doing everything the way you know you should be doing it and even doing everything the way your doctor and lawyer and accountant and all the media advice we're inundated with - it doesn't make a difference sometimes. Especially if you're stuck with your relatives this weekend because it's Thanksgiving.
Amy and I give thanks every day, especially for each other and for little Zane, our shaman/cat who keeps us laughing in the face of this crazy world so filled with sorrow and horror, brought right into your living room and computer and car all day, every day, if you let it. But that is one of the reasons I love Amy, she helps me see things in proper perspective, as only a woman can, and we make our boundaries together to keep out the crazy things and crazy people as best as we can.
Back in the day when I thought I was obligated to do this or that for people, especially driving myself through the other crazy people trying to fulfill imaginary obligations to visit their relatives on Thanksgiving, the thing I ended up giving the most thanks for was that I was me and that I was not them. I'll bet a lot of you know what I mean by that right now!
Luckily, Amy's late mother, the pen & ink master artist Jessie Spicer Zerner lived with us and we gave thanks for living with each other pretty much every day. We look at those days as the good old days now. It's been ten years since Jessie's gone and though I speak to her every day, just about - she's the one I envision as helping me with my psychic work - I still miss her terribly, though not as much as Amy, a self-proclaimed "mama's girl." Jessie was a wonderful person and a great mother and I seriously hope that you have a relative like that to visit for Thanksgiving. I do not and so I do not visit them. We've made our boundaries.
In fact, Amy and I like to joke that we could teach a course called Outward Boundaries, a play on the course called Outward Bound where people learn teamwork and to overcome their fears through outdoor adventures. Amy and I could teach even these brave souls a thing or two about facing your fears when it comes to dealing with people who are either out of control or trying to control you. In fact, we put a good deal about it in our book "Love, Light, and Laughter." If I get some requests I will post the relevant chapters in a future blog.
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